Saturday, January 29, 2005

What I Will or Won't Do for Love!!

Love... that word that has started wars, healed wounds, put smiles on faces, softened the hearts of the heartless and has filled the pages of novels since the beginning of time. It defies definition, though many have tried from psychologists, talk show hosts to mom and dad and everyone in between. We know it when we have it. Love makes us giddy, young at heart, forgetful. We walk around with goofy grins on our faces for no damned good reason. Lemons are lemonade for those in love. We begin to believe in happily ever after. It makes us feel invincible, so good sometimes that the bitch in the next cubicle doesn't even bother you anymore! We are blind to the faults of the ones we love. It doesn't seem to matter much that they don't turn down the toilet seat, and that nervous tic is "kinda cute." We just love the way their voice sounds, even at four am when you really need to be sleeping. We want to spend every moment, awake and otherwise with the one we love.

Sometimes, love is so bad, we convince ourselves that we will simply die without the love of our life. Without them, life is meaningless.

Ahh, love. And then one day, out of the blue, their voice begins to grate on your nerves, if you fall in the toilet bowl one more time you swear you'll bean him, stockings hanging in the shower are no longer a turn-on but a hazard and that tic that used to be so cute--ain't. You no longer want to stay up till four am--chatting. You want to get some sleep damnit!!!

What, pray tell went wrong?

How is it that some couples last a lifetime, while others who seem equally suited disintegrate, turning on each other like enemies from warring nations?

How do we make love last? Can we, really? Or is it that over time, love shifts from that intangible emotion to something else, something that continues to allow us to "accept" those annoying habits, the voice the touch? And perhaps those who cannot "shift" when the passions cool, call off that thing called love.

What makes people stay? What makes two really great people a horrible couple? What douses the flames of passion to puffs of smoke?

The answers are probably as numerous as the people who find themselves in and out of this thing called love.

What makes love work? What is one willing to do to make it work? Is love worth the trouble?

13 comments:

VAR said...

Love is a trip.. It'll drive you crazy, especially if you wake up one day and notice the similarities between watching paint dry and listening to a woman that you've been passionate about with respect to showering her with love. She gets used to it and then accuses you of not loving her enough because you didn't buy her a new car after her's was repossessed... You thank God profusely that she wasn't the one afterall!! Oops, I'm getting too personal...lol.. But yo, then one day you step into the limelight of a situation where you see this woman who takes you back to the time when love seemed like an island you'd chance swimming naked in freezing water just to get to. I mean, as a man who truly believes in love and believes that it truly can last forever, I've got to see about this new woman. I've got to see about taking sincere steps to entice and intrigue and eventually have her believe that ooooh weee... he could be the one for me. I am him, the one for her if I'm lucky. (smile) So, I say simply that regardless of the good and the bad stuff about love? It is so necessary!

WarmBlessings...
Anthony aka VAR

Anonymous said...

A cleint came in my office the other day. Nice older man. He told me that his 40th annivesary would be in one week, but his wife left him two weeks ago. She said she want to live and he was holding her back. He told me he had been not been able to do the deed for 5 years. (Did I need to hear that?)

I have been married 25 years. That kind of meeting really shakes you to the core. Talked to wife about it, she said that decision was made years ago and she just got the courage to leave.

It is very scary.

There is no guarantee.

25 years could mean everything, it could mean nothing.

I went to the art show today in Mount Dora. Looked at the women and wondered who would I date if my wife left me. Kinda scary

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